What is Suicide thoughts
Suicide is the act of intentionally taking your own life.
Suicidal feelings can mean having abstract thoughts about ending your life or feeling that people would be better off without you. Or it can mean thinking about methods of suicide or making clear plans to take your own life.
If you are feeling suicidal, you might be scared or confused by these feelings. You may find the feelings overwhelming.
But you are not alone. Many people think about suicide at some point in their lifetime.
"I couldn't see past the pain. It was a different reality for me. I only knew I wanted the pain to stop, the anguish to go away."
What does it feel like to be suicidal?
Different people have different experiences of suicidal feelings. You might feel unable to cope with the difficult feelings you are experiencing. You may feel less like you want to die and more like you cannot go on living the life you have.
These feelings may build over time or might change from moment to moment. And it's common to not understand why you feel this way.
These are some thoughts, feelings and experiences you may go through if you are feeling suicidal:
The two main treatments for Suicide thoughts are psychotherapy and medications. You may benefit most from a combination of the two. It may take some trial and error to discover which treatments work best for you.
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is the most effective form of psychotherapy for anxiety disorders. Generally a short-term treatment, CBT focuses on teaching you specific skills to improve your symptoms and gradually return to the activities you've avoided because of anxiety.
Several types of medications are used to help relieve symptoms, depending on the type of anxiety disorder you have and whether you also have other mental or physical health issues. For example:
Certain antidepressants are also used
Signs & Symptoms
You may feel:
hopeless, like there is no point in living
tearful and overwhelmed by negative thoughts
unbearable pain that you can't imagine ending
useless, not wanted or not needed by others
desperate, as if you have no other choice
like everyone would be better off without you
cut off from your body or physically numb
fascinated by death.
have poor sleep, including waking up earlier than you want to
experience a change in appetite, weight gain or loss
have no desire to take care of yourself, for example neglecting your physical appearance
want to avoid others
make a will or give away possessions
struggle to communicate
experience self-loathing and low self-esteem
experience urges to self-harm.
Self - Help
Tips for coping right now
try not to think about the future – just focus on getting through today
stay away from drugs and alcohol
get yourself to a safe place, like a friend's house
be around other people
do something you usually enjoy, such as spending time with a pet
Worried about someone else?
If you're worried about someone, try to get them to talk to you. Ask open-ended questions like: "How do you feel about...?"
Do not worry about having the answers. Just listening to what someone has to say and taking it seriously can be more helpful.
See Samaritans' tips on how to start a difficult conversation.
Rethink also has advice on how to support someone who is having suicidal thoughts.
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Contact a helpline or listening service
If you can't talk to someone you know, call a helpline or listening service.
Use online peer support
You could try using online peer support to talk about how you're feeling. For example, you could try Elefriends, Mind's supportive online community.
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Emergency Action plan:
Get through the next five minutes
Taking things minute by minute can help make things more bearable. Reward yourself each time five minutes have passed.
Use our 'I need urgent help' tool for practical ideas to help you through the next few minutes.
Remove anything you could use to harm yourself
Remove any items or things you could use to harm yourself or ask someone else to remove these for you. If you're in an unsafe location, move away to somewhere safer.
Follow your safety plan or crisis plan
These plans are a good way to save ideas for helping yourself when you feel unwell.
Tell someone how you're feeling
Whether it's a friend, family member or even a pet, telling someone else how you're feeling can help you feel less alone and more in control.
"When it got really bad and the temptation to harm myself was really bad I would get my family to hide dangerous things away and go to bed."